Thursday, 18 February 2010

Public Displays

I apologise for having disappeared for a few days people, I was away visiting some amazing people in Swindon/Taunton and couldn't find the time to pull myself from certain lovely faces to sit down and write to you guys. But now I am home I figure I may as well get back on it!

I was thinking about public displays of affection while I was gone and have decided to share such thoughts and check out other peoples opinions on the matter. See I think if someone wants to hug or kiss their partner in public they can crack on, there's nothing wrong with that. I mean obviously, nobody wants to see someone with their hand down their partner's jeans or two people gyrating against a wall, but those moderate displays are cute.

The other day I saw an old couple kissing on an escalator down to the underground. I want to still be kissing someone I love when I'm in my 60's and 70's!

So I started thinking about gay couples, I think it's that little bit scarier to kiss or hold hands with your partner in public, for fear of being gay bashed or something. That's not cool; people shouldn't be afraid of showing their love. I think this is more likely in gay men rather than gay women, but I could be wrong. I think it's less likely you'll see gay boys kissing in public than you are to see lesbians do it, I wonder why that is...

Maybe people are more likely to say something to guys. Maybe they're more likely to want to fight with guys. Maybe they're just more freaked out by gay guys than girls, 'cause they see them less. I don't know, I don't know why people do anything. I imagine most things are just because the world is fucked up and people are just shit, but maybe that's just a hint of pessimism or something. But hidden inside that pessimistic shell of mine, is a tiny little penguin looking for a hug... or something to that effect, maybe.

All I know is, is that people should be able to love whoever they want and not be afraid to let anyone know. People shouldn't go round punching people for being happy. And people need to take a step back and get a grip 'cause there are far worse things in the world than someone that isn't you being happy.

I like holding peoples hands, I'm a hand holder.


  1. On the face of it, gay guys don't seem to display the qualities which most lesbians have. I am talking about the quality of delicacy and the quality of tenderness. I don't know whether this makes any sense to you, but most gay guys seem to display the quality of crudeness or vulgarity. Well, I can't really find the right word for this but I hope you know what I mean.

    Yeah, I suppose the world is fucked up and people are just shit. They are stupid, subjective, prejudiced, and blinded from the truth. This is the reality and I don't know what we can do to change it or escape from this tyranny of the herd instinct. Everything just seems so meaningless sometimes. The pursuit of happiness is deemed a failure in this world.

    Maybe I am just too cynical..


  2. i know the cutest lesbian couple, they are always holding hands and kissing in public. they are so cute and its lovely! but still people give them funny looks. boooo!

  3. I'm a hand-holder. I miss it.

    I'm pretty sure I see more public displays between gay men than women. Or maybe I notice it more, which makes me wonder why.

  4. It's funny how we tell each other that love is great, we become obsessed with romance novels and movies, real life romances between celebrities or two random people who went through something dramatic, but when it's just the average person expressing love, it's somehow wrong.

  5. I agree completely. I can think of a few occasions when I have been having a few pints with various people who have gotten very angry about a gay couple (always male) being mildly affectionate with eachother. Usually going something like this:

    "Well I don't have any problem with Gay people - I just don't think they should push it in peoples faces in public!" Followed by a lengthy period of gawping at the offending couple.

    "Look at that!! Will you just look at that... They're putting it right in our faces!!"

  6. I'm both a hugger and hand-holder. I agree with you people should be given the right to love whomever they want to, and to show this love in public. We've been seeing more and more gay couples holding hands at the malls around here, for example, and I smile in happiness everytime I run into these couples, and I silently wish them the best.

    This may be the next 'Question I may need help to answer: “Why is it that, as a culture, we are more comfortable seeing two men holding guns than holding hands?” (Ernest Gaines)

    Kiss your cheeks little girl!!!